It will work either way but I personally would.

Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works I’d say are a little left? And exploding-heads, less authoritarian right, more boomer gab people instance with misused meme formats galore, totally unfun. Big R Republicans packed to the brim. Boring as fuck.

There’s not really a top right corner instance anymore, there used to be one, hosted at nobodyhasthe.biz. Those guys were what you’d expect, N word everywhere everything is about Jews chud memes black sun all of that shit.

What you’re asking for is impossible. Any server that doesn’t police your speech heavily online will get defederated by other servers. Its not up to the admin of your server which other servers defederate.

Defederation is a powerful tool for an admin. They’re the ones that make the rules, why would they make a rule against defederation? Who’d enforce it on them?